A few years ago, a woman called to schedule an appointment with me. She asked if there was anything she should do before our first visit. I encouraged her to think about how she’d know when the therapy was over. “I thought you were supposed to tell me that,” she answered. At our final meeting she reminded me of this conversation and thanked me for putting her in charge, “right from the beginning.”
That’s what I do. Since 1980 I’ve been taught well by my clients. In short, I’ve learned that no one knows you better than you do, no one knows what works for you better than you do. “Then why do I need a therapist?” you might ask. Because, like my client quoted above, someone needs to ask you the questions you’re not asking. And more, someone needs to help you pay attention to your answers.
Most therapists are asked, “What are your specialties? What populations do you the have most expertise with?” I’m not being glib when I say that my specialty is in helping people find solutions to whatever issue brings them to therapy. My training, experience and expertise allows me to use a method that is effective regardless of the client’s complaint — anything from parenting an acting out teenager to angry outbursts at work to a loss of intimacy with a spouse. Therapy is about change and a therapist’s expertise should be about that.
In addition to seeing clients in my office, I’ve published articles on “Taking Safety Home,” and have been featured on the CBS news program “48 Hours.” I have also provided workshops and trainings nationally to professionals interested in using a solution focused approach to help challenging couples and families.
My clinical practice includes working with clients individually; providing supervision to colleagues in the psychotherapy profession; facilitating a men’s and a woman’s group; seeing many couples in conflict; and working well with men who’d rather have their teeth pulled by a therapist than talk to one.
Call Denver Psychotherapist Jeffrey Goldman, L.C.S.W., B.C.D. at 303-320-0055 for counseling.